Have you ever thought about changing your attitude as a way of managing stress?

Quote by Hans Selye
Changing a stressful situation is often out of our realm of control, and we can’t change how other people think or make people behave differently.  There are some situations we have no ability to ‘fix’. Just as blasting the horn and banging on the steering wheel isn’t going to make the traffic move any faster.  Some things are not within our power to control.
We do however, have the choice of how we are going to respond to any stressful situation.

Attitude is a choice

Every morning you wake up, you get to decide which attitude you will choose for the day. You can choose a negative attitude or a positive one.  It’s your choice.  
To get you thinking about it, let me share with you one thing I’ve discovered in my life which I know to be true.  Negativity attracts negativity.  When you go into your day expecting things to go wrong, they probably will.  Conversely the opposite is also true, a positive attitude seems to attract positive energy.  When you go into your day with an attitude which is open to getting the best out of the day, the chances are you will.   The only difference is the attitude you choose.
Yes, there maybe someone at work who drives you crazy, some people and some situations are difficult to deal with. Try changing your attitude, it works.  It may mean letting go of certain expectations or exercising some compassion, we don’t know what other people may be dealing with in their life.  

Choosing an attitude of acceptance

Choosing an attitude of acceptance towards things we can’t change is a powerful choice. It doesn’t mean condoning or resigning yourself to a stressful situation, it means accepting the reality that ‘this is how it is for now, I can’t change this, but I can choose not to respond with frustration or anger.  The spin off, is choosing a different attitude will often result in a change in the situation, or other people behaving and responding differently towards us.
Try it, the choice is yours!


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